But after that initial “stars in your eyes” honeymoon phase wears off, it can be all too easy to fall into a comfortable routine … which if not careful could lead to unhappy partners and at worst divorce. Some of this transition is normal, but sometimes the relationship can get stale or humdrum, especially when kids, tough financial decisions, and difficult in-laws are involved. But it’s important to avoid turning into roommates instead of partners, even after so many years together.
We spoke with 21 everyday women who have been in long-term relationships or married for many years about how they keep the “spark” alive. From surprising their partner with romantic gestures and date ideas to remembering to laugh and reminisce together, all 21 women came up with different ways that they keep their relationship fresh so that it always feels like the day that they first said, “I do.” None of these relationship tips and ideas have anything to do with sex, proving that you don’t (necessarily) need to go for a romp in the sheets to keep things exciting.
“We go through phases of being crazy in love — the I-can’t-take-my-hands-off-you weeks to the please-don’t-touch-me days,” Jade, who has been with her husband for 17 years, tells CafeMom. “The relationship ebbs and flows, and I think our key has really been learning to read the other person and knowing when they need a little more.”
Keep scrolling to learn more wise words from couples who are still going strong, from women who have been with their significant others for almost a decade to couples who are closing in on their 50th anniversary.
