I’ve worked as a hostess in a high-end restaurant in the Hamptons, a caterer, an intern at some of the most respected media companies in the world, and finally, as a journalist, and I can honestly say I’ve had to endure vile comments and actions from some of my male co-workers in all these places. Of course, this is not an individual problem — it’s a systemic issue, where men disregard a woman’s right to be treated as a team member and really, a human being deserving of respect — but I wanted to find out just how prevalent harassment in the workplace, whether sexual or just flat-out sexist. So I decided to launch an experiment. On Thursday, I posted this call-out on my personal Facebook:
In minutes, my Facebook was flooded with messages. In many cases, the women who shared their stories were in their early 20s when men many years their senior preyed on them in an office setting — some were not even 18.
Women are told that gender-based harassment is something we should accept. In some of these stories, you’ll see women are explicitly told it’s “part of their job.”
I’ve compiled these stories to show that this cannot be the norm — that your server, your bartender, your editor, your colleague — deserves to feel safe in her work environment. Period.
Absolutely awful. On another occasion at this restaurant I had a drunk old man say some inappropriate things to me and touch my leg when I was sitting at the desk. I lost it. I went and told my manager expecting the man to be thrown out and my boss told me that he was a regular and it was a part of my job. I never showed up to that job again." — Kelsey Peacock, 24
I said, ‘WTF are you doing, stop it!!?’ And he goes ‘No watch, watch it’s funny!’ And I said “I asked you to stop, I said no!” And I glared at him as he walked out.
He never apologized to me I texted him saying if he ever sat at my bar again I was going to the cops. I have never felt so violated in my own work environment. I love my job, and I know I am not the only girl that has worked under him to have this happen." — Emily Gandolfo, 21
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘You don’t need to answer if you don’t want to.’
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘How much do you weigh?’" — Anonymous, 22
Eat a dick." — Anonymous, 25
That company no longer exists. It failed." — Shaunna Murphy, 29, Senior Entertainment Editor
Later on, when confiding in a male coworker, he told me I come off as annoying and bitchy when I try to lead certain projects. Some call it annoying, I call it taking initiative." — Mandy Velez, 24, Editorial Director/Co-founder
That was probably the worst, but the second worst was when he stopped by when my coworkers were gone to drop off donation money and as he hands me the envelope said ‘For all that, you should come to dinner with me sometime.’ I laughed like he’d just told the best joke ever and said, ‘Oh my gosh, you’re so funny!’ He made similar advances on a female former coworker in the past, then gossiped to another male coworker in front of me that she must be sleeping with the boss and that’s why she reacted so negatively.
He always walks the line when my coworkers (both older males) are around but if they’re not present, or if I’m on the phone with him, he’ll call me ‘babe’ and say things like ‘be a doll and [insert task here].’ He’s also 30 years my senior. Sorry to go into an extended rant, it’s just frustrating because I’ve decided to put up with this racism, sexist jerk in order to keep the funding coming." — Anonymous, 26
Also “I’m glad you don’t work over on this side of the office, I’d never get any work done.” The low-level sexual harassment is actually insane." — Alle Connell, 31, Senior Lifestyle Editor
Well I had mentioned that I felt like I would like more responsibilities to the new manager, and his response was ‘Why, you were only hired because she liked the way you looked.’" — Noelle Peyton, 25
Different guy said after we ordered the same drink said, ‘She’s knows to follow daddy’ in front of multiple people I work with." — Anonymous, 22
I knew he meant it as a joke but I couldn’t help but lose some respect for him."— Anonymous, 25
Another was when my male boss asked me, ‘So when are you going to wear those white shorts to work again?’ as he simultaneously brought out a six pack of beer to ‘share.’
And a third was a male coworker who told me, ‘I know you say you don’t want to have kids, but don’t you love to FUCK?’ and went on in explicit detail about what he enjoyed." — Anonymous, 25
She turned to him horrified and asked, “Don’t you have a wife and child?” To which he replied, “That’s for me to worry about.” EW. So she was obviously shaken and upset because no one else had seen this. When she told me I was infuriated and I advised her to report is ASAP. But, she said that due to his senior level and the fact that no one else saw it she was afraid nothing would happen and that he would target her in the future. I tried to persuade her to change her mind but she just kept saying that she would think about it.
A few months later she left to go to another agency and I told my male friend (who is also senior level and warned me about creepy Dr. man) about what had happened at the Holiday party and he was LIVID. Apparently, Dr. man has had several HR infractions and he was skating on thin ice. If my friend had reported it, then he maybe would have gotten terminated.
Turns out he was fired four months later for who knows what but he is a slimy fuck and I hate him." — Anonymous, 25
A couple weeks later, I was told by another coworker that one of them was looking at my butt when i bent over to grab something and he was trying to get his 30-something-year-old son to go after a new hire who was about my age at the time. They continued to only hire young girls and make obscene comments toward them.
They were really creepy." — Colleen Nugent, 27
I was always told I couldn’t lift heavy items because ‘I’m a girl and it’s not my place.’"
— Erin Perrier, 20
title: “Women Share The Most Disgusting Things Male Co Workers Have Said And Done To Them” ShowToc: true date: “2024-08-26” author: “Betty Rivera”
I’ve worked as a hostess in a high-end restaurant in the Hamptons, a caterer, an intern at some of the most respected media companies in the world, and finally, as a journalist, and I can honestly say I’ve had to endure vile comments and actions from some of my male co-workers in all these places. Of course, this is not an individual problem — it’s a systemic issue, where men disregard a woman’s right to be treated as a team member and really, a human being deserving of respect — but I wanted to find out just how prevalent harassment in the workplace, whether sexual or just flat-out sexist. So I decided to launch an experiment. On Thursday, I posted this call-out on my personal Facebook:
In minutes, my Facebook was flooded with messages. In many cases, the women who shared their stories were in their early 20s when men many years their senior preyed on them in an office setting — some were not even 18.
Women are told that gender-based harassment is something we should accept. In some of these stories, you’ll see women are explicitly told it’s “part of their job.”
I’ve compiled these stories to show that this cannot be the norm — that your server, your bartender, your editor, your colleague — deserves to feel safe in her work environment. Period.
Absolutely awful. On another occasion at this restaurant I had a drunk old man say some inappropriate things to me and touch my leg when I was sitting at the desk. I lost it. I went and told my manager expecting the man to be thrown out and my boss told me that he was a regular and it was a part of my job. I never showed up to that job again." — Kelsey Peacock, 24
I said, ‘WTF are you doing, stop it!!?’ And he goes ‘No watch, watch it’s funny!’ And I said “I asked you to stop, I said no!” And I glared at him as he walked out.
He never apologized to me I texted him saying if he ever sat at my bar again I was going to the cops. I have never felt so violated in my own work environment. I love my job, and I know I am not the only girl that has worked under him to have this happen." — Emily Gandolfo, 21
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘You don’t need to answer if you don’t want to.’
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘How much do you weigh?’" — Anonymous, 22
Eat a dick." — Anonymous, 25
That company no longer exists. It failed." — Shaunna Murphy, 29, Senior Entertainment Editor
Later on, when confiding in a male coworker, he told me I come off as annoying and bitchy when I try to lead certain projects. Some call it annoying, I call it taking initiative." — Mandy Velez, 24, Editorial Director/Co-founder
That was probably the worst, but the second worst was when he stopped by when my coworkers were gone to drop off donation money and as he hands me the envelope said ‘For all that, you should come to dinner with me sometime.’ I laughed like he’d just told the best joke ever and said, ‘Oh my gosh, you’re so funny!’ He made similar advances on a female former coworker in the past, then gossiped to another male coworker in front of me that she must be sleeping with the boss and that’s why she reacted so negatively.
He always walks the line when my coworkers (both older males) are around but if they’re not present, or if I’m on the phone with him, he’ll call me ‘babe’ and say things like ‘be a doll and [insert task here].’ He’s also 30 years my senior. Sorry to go into an extended rant, it’s just frustrating because I’ve decided to put up with this racism, sexist jerk in order to keep the funding coming." — Anonymous, 26
Also “I’m glad you don’t work over on this side of the office, I’d never get any work done.” The low-level sexual harassment is actually insane." — Alle Connell, 31, Senior Lifestyle Editor
Well I had mentioned that I felt like I would like more responsibilities to the new manager, and his response was ‘Why, you were only hired because she liked the way you looked.’" — Noelle Peyton, 25
Different guy said after we ordered the same drink said, ‘She’s knows to follow daddy’ in front of multiple people I work with." — Anonymous, 22
I knew he meant it as a joke but I couldn’t help but lose some respect for him."— Anonymous, 25
Another was when my male boss asked me, ‘So when are you going to wear those white shorts to work again?’ as he simultaneously brought out a six pack of beer to ‘share.’
And a third was a male coworker who told me, ‘I know you say you don’t want to have kids, but don’t you love to FUCK?’ and went on in explicit detail about what he enjoyed." — Anonymous, 25
She turned to him horrified and asked, “Don’t you have a wife and child?” To which he replied, “That’s for me to worry about.” EW. So she was obviously shaken and upset because no one else had seen this. When she told me I was infuriated and I advised her to report is ASAP. But, she said that due to his senior level and the fact that no one else saw it she was afraid nothing would happen and that he would target her in the future. I tried to persuade her to change her mind but she just kept saying that she would think about it.
A few months later she left to go to another agency and I told my male friend (who is also senior level and warned me about creepy Dr. man) about what had happened at the Holiday party and he was LIVID. Apparently, Dr. man has had several HR infractions and he was skating on thin ice. If my friend had reported it, then he maybe would have gotten terminated.
Turns out he was fired four months later for who knows what but he is a slimy fuck and I hate him." — Anonymous, 25
A couple weeks later, I was told by another coworker that one of them was looking at my butt when i bent over to grab something and he was trying to get his 30-something-year-old son to go after a new hire who was about my age at the time. They continued to only hire young girls and make obscene comments toward them.
They were really creepy." — Colleen Nugent, 27
I was always told I couldn’t lift heavy items because ‘I’m a girl and it’s not my place.’"
— Erin Perrier, 20
title: “Women Share The Most Disgusting Things Male Co Workers Have Said And Done To Them” ShowToc: true date: “2024-08-28” author: “Leonard Higgins”
I’ve worked as a hostess in a high-end restaurant in the Hamptons, a caterer, an intern at some of the most respected media companies in the world, and finally, as a journalist, and I can honestly say I’ve had to endure vile comments and actions from some of my male co-workers in all these places. Of course, this is not an individual problem — it’s a systemic issue, where men disregard a woman’s right to be treated as a team member and really, a human being deserving of respect — but I wanted to find out just how prevalent harassment in the workplace, whether sexual or just flat-out sexist. So I decided to launch an experiment. On Thursday, I posted this call-out on my personal Facebook:
In minutes, my Facebook was flooded with messages. In many cases, the women who shared their stories were in their early 20s when men many years their senior preyed on them in an office setting — some were not even 18.
Women are told that gender-based harassment is something we should accept. In some of these stories, you’ll see women are explicitly told it’s “part of their job.”
I’ve compiled these stories to show that this cannot be the norm — that your server, your bartender, your editor, your colleague — deserves to feel safe in her work environment. Period.
Absolutely awful. On another occasion at this restaurant I had a drunk old man say some inappropriate things to me and touch my leg when I was sitting at the desk. I lost it. I went and told my manager expecting the man to be thrown out and my boss told me that he was a regular and it was a part of my job. I never showed up to that job again." — Kelsey Peacock, 24
I said, ‘WTF are you doing, stop it!!?’ And he goes ‘No watch, watch it’s funny!’ And I said “I asked you to stop, I said no!” And I glared at him as he walked out.
He never apologized to me I texted him saying if he ever sat at my bar again I was going to the cops. I have never felt so violated in my own work environment. I love my job, and I know I am not the only girl that has worked under him to have this happen." — Emily Gandolfo, 21
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘You don’t need to answer if you don’t want to.’
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘How much do you weigh?’" — Anonymous, 22
Eat a dick." — Anonymous, 25
That company no longer exists. It failed." — Shaunna Murphy, 29, Senior Entertainment Editor
Later on, when confiding in a male coworker, he told me I come off as annoying and bitchy when I try to lead certain projects. Some call it annoying, I call it taking initiative." — Mandy Velez, 24, Editorial Director/Co-founder
That was probably the worst, but the second worst was when he stopped by when my coworkers were gone to drop off donation money and as he hands me the envelope said ‘For all that, you should come to dinner with me sometime.’ I laughed like he’d just told the best joke ever and said, ‘Oh my gosh, you’re so funny!’ He made similar advances on a female former coworker in the past, then gossiped to another male coworker in front of me that she must be sleeping with the boss and that’s why she reacted so negatively.
He always walks the line when my coworkers (both older males) are around but if they’re not present, or if I’m on the phone with him, he’ll call me ‘babe’ and say things like ‘be a doll and [insert task here].’ He’s also 30 years my senior. Sorry to go into an extended rant, it’s just frustrating because I’ve decided to put up with this racism, sexist jerk in order to keep the funding coming." — Anonymous, 26
Also “I’m glad you don’t work over on this side of the office, I’d never get any work done.” The low-level sexual harassment is actually insane." — Alle Connell, 31, Senior Lifestyle Editor
Well I had mentioned that I felt like I would like more responsibilities to the new manager, and his response was ‘Why, you were only hired because she liked the way you looked.’" — Noelle Peyton, 25
Different guy said after we ordered the same drink said, ‘She’s knows to follow daddy’ in front of multiple people I work with." — Anonymous, 22
I knew he meant it as a joke but I couldn’t help but lose some respect for him."— Anonymous, 25
Another was when my male boss asked me, ‘So when are you going to wear those white shorts to work again?’ as he simultaneously brought out a six pack of beer to ‘share.’
And a third was a male coworker who told me, ‘I know you say you don’t want to have kids, but don’t you love to FUCK?’ and went on in explicit detail about what he enjoyed." — Anonymous, 25
She turned to him horrified and asked, “Don’t you have a wife and child?” To which he replied, “That’s for me to worry about.” EW. So she was obviously shaken and upset because no one else had seen this. When she told me I was infuriated and I advised her to report is ASAP. But, she said that due to his senior level and the fact that no one else saw it she was afraid nothing would happen and that he would target her in the future. I tried to persuade her to change her mind but she just kept saying that she would think about it.
A few months later she left to go to another agency and I told my male friend (who is also senior level and warned me about creepy Dr. man) about what had happened at the Holiday party and he was LIVID. Apparently, Dr. man has had several HR infractions and he was skating on thin ice. If my friend had reported it, then he maybe would have gotten terminated.
Turns out he was fired four months later for who knows what but he is a slimy fuck and I hate him." — Anonymous, 25
A couple weeks later, I was told by another coworker that one of them was looking at my butt when i bent over to grab something and he was trying to get his 30-something-year-old son to go after a new hire who was about my age at the time. They continued to only hire young girls and make obscene comments toward them.
They were really creepy." — Colleen Nugent, 27
I was always told I couldn’t lift heavy items because ‘I’m a girl and it’s not my place.’"
— Erin Perrier, 20
title: “Women Share The Most Disgusting Things Male Co Workers Have Said And Done To Them” ShowToc: true date: “2024-09-28” author: “Jeremy Greathouse”
I’ve worked as a hostess in a high-end restaurant in the Hamptons, a caterer, an intern at some of the most respected media companies in the world, and finally, as a journalist, and I can honestly say I’ve had to endure vile comments and actions from some of my male co-workers in all these places. Of course, this is not an individual problem — it’s a systemic issue, where men disregard a woman’s right to be treated as a team member and really, a human being deserving of respect — but I wanted to find out just how prevalent harassment in the workplace, whether sexual or just flat-out sexist. So I decided to launch an experiment. On Thursday, I posted this call-out on my personal Facebook:
In minutes, my Facebook was flooded with messages. In many cases, the women who shared their stories were in their early 20s when men many years their senior preyed on them in an office setting — some were not even 18.
Women are told that gender-based harassment is something we should accept. In some of these stories, you’ll see women are explicitly told it’s “part of their job.”
I’ve compiled these stories to show that this cannot be the norm — that your server, your bartender, your editor, your colleague — deserves to feel safe in her work environment. Period.
Absolutely awful. On another occasion at this restaurant I had a drunk old man say some inappropriate things to me and touch my leg when I was sitting at the desk. I lost it. I went and told my manager expecting the man to be thrown out and my boss told me that he was a regular and it was a part of my job. I never showed up to that job again." — Kelsey Peacock, 24
I said, ‘WTF are you doing, stop it!!?’ And he goes ‘No watch, watch it’s funny!’ And I said “I asked you to stop, I said no!” And I glared at him as he walked out.
He never apologized to me I texted him saying if he ever sat at my bar again I was going to the cops. I have never felt so violated in my own work environment. I love my job, and I know I am not the only girl that has worked under him to have this happen." — Emily Gandolfo, 21
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘You don’t need to answer if you don’t want to.’
Me: ‘Okay.’
Him: ‘How much do you weigh?’" — Anonymous, 22
Eat a dick." — Anonymous, 25
That company no longer exists. It failed." — Shaunna Murphy, 29, Senior Entertainment Editor
Later on, when confiding in a male coworker, he told me I come off as annoying and bitchy when I try to lead certain projects. Some call it annoying, I call it taking initiative." — Mandy Velez, 24, Editorial Director/Co-founder
That was probably the worst, but the second worst was when he stopped by when my coworkers were gone to drop off donation money and as he hands me the envelope said ‘For all that, you should come to dinner with me sometime.’ I laughed like he’d just told the best joke ever and said, ‘Oh my gosh, you’re so funny!’ He made similar advances on a female former coworker in the past, then gossiped to another male coworker in front of me that she must be sleeping with the boss and that’s why she reacted so negatively.
He always walks the line when my coworkers (both older males) are around but if they’re not present, or if I’m on the phone with him, he’ll call me ‘babe’ and say things like ‘be a doll and [insert task here].’ He’s also 30 years my senior. Sorry to go into an extended rant, it’s just frustrating because I’ve decided to put up with this racism, sexist jerk in order to keep the funding coming." — Anonymous, 26
Also “I’m glad you don’t work over on this side of the office, I’d never get any work done.” The low-level sexual harassment is actually insane." — Alle Connell, 31, Senior Lifestyle Editor
Well I had mentioned that I felt like I would like more responsibilities to the new manager, and his response was ‘Why, you were only hired because she liked the way you looked.’" — Noelle Peyton, 25
Different guy said after we ordered the same drink said, ‘She’s knows to follow daddy’ in front of multiple people I work with." — Anonymous, 22
I knew he meant it as a joke but I couldn’t help but lose some respect for him."— Anonymous, 25
Another was when my male boss asked me, ‘So when are you going to wear those white shorts to work again?’ as he simultaneously brought out a six pack of beer to ‘share.’
And a third was a male coworker who told me, ‘I know you say you don’t want to have kids, but don’t you love to FUCK?’ and went on in explicit detail about what he enjoyed." — Anonymous, 25
She turned to him horrified and asked, “Don’t you have a wife and child?” To which he replied, “That’s for me to worry about.” EW. So she was obviously shaken and upset because no one else had seen this. When she told me I was infuriated and I advised her to report is ASAP. But, she said that due to his senior level and the fact that no one else saw it she was afraid nothing would happen and that he would target her in the future. I tried to persuade her to change her mind but she just kept saying that she would think about it.
A few months later she left to go to another agency and I told my male friend (who is also senior level and warned me about creepy Dr. man) about what had happened at the Holiday party and he was LIVID. Apparently, Dr. man has had several HR infractions and he was skating on thin ice. If my friend had reported it, then he maybe would have gotten terminated.
Turns out he was fired four months later for who knows what but he is a slimy fuck and I hate him." — Anonymous, 25
A couple weeks later, I was told by another coworker that one of them was looking at my butt when i bent over to grab something and he was trying to get his 30-something-year-old son to go after a new hire who was about my age at the time. They continued to only hire young girls and make obscene comments toward them.
They were really creepy." — Colleen Nugent, 27
I was always told I couldn’t lift heavy items because ‘I’m a girl and it’s not my place.’"
— Erin Perrier, 20
