More from CafeMom: Target Has a New Subscription Box for Baby Clothes & We’re Already Obsessed More from CafeMom: Moms Are Pushed into Unnecessary C-Sections Because Doctors Rely on ‘Unrealistic’ Standards Parents may not actually be handing their baby boys or girls pistols and pearls right out of the womb. But they do use gender-reveal parties and cakes to reinforce dangerous ideas about gender roles that have a tendency to make people really damn uncomfortable. You can totally have your gender-reveal cake and eat it too — just know that you don’t have to resort to played out gender stereotypes in order to do it.