When Your Kid Is The Bully 9 Parents Confess What It S Like

Moms and dads recently took to Reddit to share how they found out their child was bullying or mistreating another kid — and what they did about it. And as you can imagine, most were shocked — horrified — when they discovered their son or daughter was demonstrating bullying behavior, and they wanted to get to the root of the problem … fast. Lopolo/iStock “Thankfully this was years ago and we haven’t had problems since. I will tell you that I was strangely grateful my daughter was the bully and not the victim — but probably for a different reason than you would expect. Because she was the bully, I could correct the issue. I can’t control someone else’s kid when I’m not around.” — peaceloveandbacon More from CafeMom: Are You Raising a Bully? (Quiz) “Next day, he pinched a girl hard — made her cry. I sat him down; he blamed this other kid, saying he made him do it … same kid he was screaming at the day before. I was upset with him, took away all his Star Wars toys, said he’d get one toy back every day he was good. Also made him apologize to the girl. “I come to find out the other little sht who told him to pinch the girl had been bullying him pretty bad and gave him a bloody lip. He didn’t tell me or the teacher or [try to] defend himself because he was afraid of getting into trouble and not getting a toy back that day. “I found out the other boy — who is two years older and always getting in trouble — would pinch him, call him ugly and stupid on the playground, and say he was going to kill him all the time. I felt like a walking piece of sht who wouldn’t protect my own son or let him protect himself. I know there are a lot of sh*tty kids out there who do bully, but maybe don’t rush in before hearing the kid out, especially if you’ve never had problems with them before.” — Doodoointhepeepants More from CafeMom: 12 Teenagers Tell Us Straight Up What We Need to Do to Prevent Teen Suicide “They were unable to go to town without adult supervision for a few weeks. I was not amused.” — Not_So_Super_Mom “When we got her home that afternoon, my daughter and I had a brief discussion about respect and morality (read: I asked her if she’d enjoy receiving the same treatment she’d been giving, elaborating somewhat on the details). After crying herself to sleep that night, she woke up early and spent two hours making an apology card. That was the last time we had a call about her and bullying … until she kicked her little brother’s bully in the head a year later. She got to choose what we had for dinner that night.” — Ishmael1983 “We still continued the discussion because it still wasn’t appropriate — and she had to color the other girl a picture apologizing. I also had to tell her that if someone is being mean or bullying her, she needed to tell a teacher and not to just react. Because at the end of the day, the other girl told and nothing happened to her for what she did. “All of this totally sucked considering at home when her friends are over I teach her to handle her problems and not to tattle.” — MissTotesMaGoats More from CafeMom: Our Kids Don’t Feel Safe at School Right Now: How Parents Can Change That “I worked at a children’s mental health clinic for over a year. We got lots of bullies, but one girl told us that her mom ‘makes’ her bully other kids. We talked to [her] mom and she claimed that if her daughter was hurting kids first, then she wouldn’t get bullied herself.” — linatrinch

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