But where better to get honest, un-sugarcoated information than from women who’ve given birth? Here’s what happened to 12 Reddit moms’ ladybits after they had kids: “During the first birth I was torn but stitched back up. I’m the sort of woman who has spent a decent amount of time using a mirror to see what is going on down there. Visually, it looks almost completely the same. You can only see a very small amount of asymmetry where the skin healed from my stitches but you’d have to have really known what to look for to notice. “As to how it ‘performs,’ it also seems to be exactly the same. I have always done intermittent kegels and my husband says that he can’t tell the difference. He could be trying to preserve his life, but the fact that he still achieves orgasm in the same amount of time would seem to back his claim up. Sex is still just as pleasurable to me. “The one thing that some women will experience that is a bummer is some temporary or in rare cases permanent urinary incontinence. I developed some and it took months of kegels to prevent myself from peeing every time I sneezed or laughed. But a stringent kegel routine has eliminated this problem.” “I too had heard tales of it being like ‘a hotdog down a hallway,’ but that is not the case at all. In addition my wife, if anything, appears to be enjoying sex even more.” “After delivery, I asked my doctor not to sew me up too tight. I was worried about it being too tight down there later, and I didn’t want it to be painful. … Anyway, sex was a lot better after delivery. Well, not immediately! After childbirth, you can’t have sex for about eight weeks, and even then, you probably won’t want to (in my experience) for a little while longer. But the skin around the entrance to my vagina was no longer too tight. Some positions that used to be uncomfortable no longer were. “After the birth of my second child, things bounced back much more quickly. I only had a superficial tear that required a single stitch. Healing took no time at all! I still bled for weeks and weeks and weeks (I bled about 10 weeks after each birth). But after that, I was good to go physically! In my experience, the vagina is tighter post-childbirth than before childbirth for a while. I think most women who go through childbirth will tell you that. It takes a little bit for things to relax down there again. “I don’t think my scarring was that bad. I never really looked, and my husband hasn’t said anything. I’ve heard of some women saying their scarring was bad.” “And, decidedly less pubic hair. Stretch marks in funny places left me with a slightly mangey looking bush, LOL.” “My husband of course can tell differences but it doesn’t seem to affect his enjoyment or performance. “Vag tears heal. You should look into prolapses and ongoing urinary/fecal incontinence if you really want to talk yourself out of having kids. It’s the ongoing issues that really affect your life.” “In all, I loved being pregnant and having children. My kids are awesome, being a mother is awesome. Labor is hard work, but boy is it worth it.” “Externally, I had a repair that happened to even out my previously uneven labia. An unintended consequence is that I often pee really forward now, so I have to angle carefully or it will shoot forward instead of into the bowl. This displeases me greatly. But I guess people end up with way worse issues (I never had any incontinence, even immediately after birth), so I probably shouldn’t complain. “My sex drive is still basically non-existent, but I’m still breastfeeding around the clock, having a bit of an existential crisis, and our son sleeps in our bed. I am fairly confident that the libido issue will resolve when some of those things change.”
title: “Moms Reveal What Their Vaginas Are Like After Having Kids” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-24” author: “Barbara Hardinger”
But where better to get honest, un-sugarcoated information than from women who’ve given birth? Here’s what happened to 12 Reddit moms’ ladybits after they had kids: “During the first birth I was torn but stitched back up. I’m the sort of woman who has spent a decent amount of time using a mirror to see what is going on down there. Visually, it looks almost completely the same. You can only see a very small amount of asymmetry where the skin healed from my stitches but you’d have to have really known what to look for to notice. “As to how it ‘performs,’ it also seems to be exactly the same. I have always done intermittent kegels and my husband says that he can’t tell the difference. He could be trying to preserve his life, but the fact that he still achieves orgasm in the same amount of time would seem to back his claim up. Sex is still just as pleasurable to me. “The one thing that some women will experience that is a bummer is some temporary or in rare cases permanent urinary incontinence. I developed some and it took months of kegels to prevent myself from peeing every time I sneezed or laughed. But a stringent kegel routine has eliminated this problem.” “I too had heard tales of it being like ‘a hotdog down a hallway,’ but that is not the case at all. In addition my wife, if anything, appears to be enjoying sex even more.” “After delivery, I asked my doctor not to sew me up too tight. I was worried about it being too tight down there later, and I didn’t want it to be painful. … Anyway, sex was a lot better after delivery. Well, not immediately! After childbirth, you can’t have sex for about eight weeks, and even then, you probably won’t want to (in my experience) for a little while longer. But the skin around the entrance to my vagina was no longer too tight. Some positions that used to be uncomfortable no longer were. “After the birth of my second child, things bounced back much more quickly. I only had a superficial tear that required a single stitch. Healing took no time at all! I still bled for weeks and weeks and weeks (I bled about 10 weeks after each birth). But after that, I was good to go physically! In my experience, the vagina is tighter post-childbirth than before childbirth for a while. I think most women who go through childbirth will tell you that. It takes a little bit for things to relax down there again. “I don’t think my scarring was that bad. I never really looked, and my husband hasn’t said anything. I’ve heard of some women saying their scarring was bad.” “And, decidedly less pubic hair. Stretch marks in funny places left me with a slightly mangey looking bush, LOL.” “My husband of course can tell differences but it doesn’t seem to affect his enjoyment or performance. “Vag tears heal. You should look into prolapses and ongoing urinary/fecal incontinence if you really want to talk yourself out of having kids. It’s the ongoing issues that really affect your life.” “In all, I loved being pregnant and having children. My kids are awesome, being a mother is awesome. Labor is hard work, but boy is it worth it.” “Externally, I had a repair that happened to even out my previously uneven labia. An unintended consequence is that I often pee really forward now, so I have to angle carefully or it will shoot forward instead of into the bowl. This displeases me greatly. But I guess people end up with way worse issues (I never had any incontinence, even immediately after birth), so I probably shouldn’t complain. “My sex drive is still basically non-existent, but I’m still breastfeeding around the clock, having a bit of an existential crisis, and our son sleeps in our bed. I am fairly confident that the libido issue will resolve when some of those things change.”
title: “Moms Reveal What Their Vaginas Are Like After Having Kids” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-04” author: “Joe Tam”
But where better to get honest, un-sugarcoated information than from women who’ve given birth? Here’s what happened to 12 Reddit moms’ ladybits after they had kids: “During the first birth I was torn but stitched back up. I’m the sort of woman who has spent a decent amount of time using a mirror to see what is going on down there. Visually, it looks almost completely the same. You can only see a very small amount of asymmetry where the skin healed from my stitches but you’d have to have really known what to look for to notice. “As to how it ‘performs,’ it also seems to be exactly the same. I have always done intermittent kegels and my husband says that he can’t tell the difference. He could be trying to preserve his life, but the fact that he still achieves orgasm in the same amount of time would seem to back his claim up. Sex is still just as pleasurable to me. “The one thing that some women will experience that is a bummer is some temporary or in rare cases permanent urinary incontinence. I developed some and it took months of kegels to prevent myself from peeing every time I sneezed or laughed. But a stringent kegel routine has eliminated this problem.” “I too had heard tales of it being like ‘a hotdog down a hallway,’ but that is not the case at all. In addition my wife, if anything, appears to be enjoying sex even more.” “After delivery, I asked my doctor not to sew me up too tight. I was worried about it being too tight down there later, and I didn’t want it to be painful. … Anyway, sex was a lot better after delivery. Well, not immediately! After childbirth, you can’t have sex for about eight weeks, and even then, you probably won’t want to (in my experience) for a little while longer. But the skin around the entrance to my vagina was no longer too tight. Some positions that used to be uncomfortable no longer were. “After the birth of my second child, things bounced back much more quickly. I only had a superficial tear that required a single stitch. Healing took no time at all! I still bled for weeks and weeks and weeks (I bled about 10 weeks after each birth). But after that, I was good to go physically! In my experience, the vagina is tighter post-childbirth than before childbirth for a while. I think most women who go through childbirth will tell you that. It takes a little bit for things to relax down there again. “I don’t think my scarring was that bad. I never really looked, and my husband hasn’t said anything. I’ve heard of some women saying their scarring was bad.” “And, decidedly less pubic hair. Stretch marks in funny places left me with a slightly mangey looking bush, LOL.” “My husband of course can tell differences but it doesn’t seem to affect his enjoyment or performance. “Vag tears heal. You should look into prolapses and ongoing urinary/fecal incontinence if you really want to talk yourself out of having kids. It’s the ongoing issues that really affect your life.” “In all, I loved being pregnant and having children. My kids are awesome, being a mother is awesome. Labor is hard work, but boy is it worth it.” “Externally, I had a repair that happened to even out my previously uneven labia. An unintended consequence is that I often pee really forward now, so I have to angle carefully or it will shoot forward instead of into the bowl. This displeases me greatly. But I guess people end up with way worse issues (I never had any incontinence, even immediately after birth), so I probably shouldn’t complain. “My sex drive is still basically non-existent, but I’m still breastfeeding around the clock, having a bit of an existential crisis, and our son sleeps in our bed. I am fairly confident that the libido issue will resolve when some of those things change.”
