After all, you’re making yourself emotionally vulnerable with someone whose opinion you highly value. While there’s always the potential for things to not work out as planned, the ultimate reward — dating someone you seriously dig — is totally worth it. We spoke to several relationship experts and life coaches to help you work up the nerve to ask your future bae out. “Don’t make it heavy or intense,” says Dr. Fran Walfish, relationship psychotherapist and author. She suggests something like an invite to a concert or movie you already have tickets to, a lighthearted activity; or even grabbing a quick bite at your favorite coffee shop. “Beating around the bush will only make the task more difficult,” says Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, a relationship therapist. “Strike at the heart of the matter, [and] don’t backtrack or blabber on. That will only complicate and dilute your intention.” Not only will clarity help your crush know your exact intentions, it’ll make you look and feel confident. Instead, give in to your emotions. “Utilize your humor, your nervousness, and your humility to deliver your intentional message,” he urges. “It will color your request with charm and grace — two incredibly attractive qualities.” “You need to bolster yourself for the possibility of rejection,” says Dr. Walfish. “There are many reasons why someone might turn down your overture that have nothing to do with you personally. For example, your crush may be involved in another relationship, or getting over one, or you simply may not be his or her cup of tea.” She adds that having plenty of resilience will help you spring back more quickly and try again with someone else who may be a better match, personality- and timing-wise. “Determination and drive are key ingredients in finding your best fit,” she says. “Remember all that you have to offer — who you are, how attractive you are, and how much people have enjoyed being with you in the past,” says Dr. Howard. “Remember how your friends love you and how lovable, smart, fun, and adventurous you really are.”
title: “How To Work Up The Courage To Ask Your Crush Out” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-05” author: “Joshua Howard”
After all, you’re making yourself emotionally vulnerable with someone whose opinion you highly value. While there’s always the potential for things to not work out as planned, the ultimate reward — dating someone you seriously dig — is totally worth it. We spoke to several relationship experts and life coaches to help you work up the nerve to ask your future bae out. “Don’t make it heavy or intense,” says Dr. Fran Walfish, relationship psychotherapist and author. She suggests something like an invite to a concert or movie you already have tickets to, a lighthearted activity; or even grabbing a quick bite at your favorite coffee shop. “Beating around the bush will only make the task more difficult,” says Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, a relationship therapist. “Strike at the heart of the matter, [and] don’t backtrack or blabber on. That will only complicate and dilute your intention.” Not only will clarity help your crush know your exact intentions, it’ll make you look and feel confident. Instead, give in to your emotions. “Utilize your humor, your nervousness, and your humility to deliver your intentional message,” he urges. “It will color your request with charm and grace — two incredibly attractive qualities.” “You need to bolster yourself for the possibility of rejection,” says Dr. Walfish. “There are many reasons why someone might turn down your overture that have nothing to do with you personally. For example, your crush may be involved in another relationship, or getting over one, or you simply may not be his or her cup of tea.” She adds that having plenty of resilience will help you spring back more quickly and try again with someone else who may be a better match, personality- and timing-wise. “Determination and drive are key ingredients in finding your best fit,” she says. “Remember all that you have to offer — who you are, how attractive you are, and how much people have enjoyed being with you in the past,” says Dr. Howard. “Remember how your friends love you and how lovable, smart, fun, and adventurous you really are.”
title: “How To Work Up The Courage To Ask Your Crush Out” ShowToc: true date: “2024-08-27” author: “Cherie Traylor”
After all, you’re making yourself emotionally vulnerable with someone whose opinion you highly value. While there’s always the potential for things to not work out as planned, the ultimate reward — dating someone you seriously dig — is totally worth it. We spoke to several relationship experts and life coaches to help you work up the nerve to ask your future bae out. “Don’t make it heavy or intense,” says Dr. Fran Walfish, relationship psychotherapist and author. She suggests something like an invite to a concert or movie you already have tickets to, a lighthearted activity; or even grabbing a quick bite at your favorite coffee shop. “Beating around the bush will only make the task more difficult,” says Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, a relationship therapist. “Strike at the heart of the matter, [and] don’t backtrack or blabber on. That will only complicate and dilute your intention.” Not only will clarity help your crush know your exact intentions, it’ll make you look and feel confident. Instead, give in to your emotions. “Utilize your humor, your nervousness, and your humility to deliver your intentional message,” he urges. “It will color your request with charm and grace — two incredibly attractive qualities.” “You need to bolster yourself for the possibility of rejection,” says Dr. Walfish. “There are many reasons why someone might turn down your overture that have nothing to do with you personally. For example, your crush may be involved in another relationship, or getting over one, or you simply may not be his or her cup of tea.” She adds that having plenty of resilience will help you spring back more quickly and try again with someone else who may be a better match, personality- and timing-wise. “Determination and drive are key ingredients in finding your best fit,” she says. “Remember all that you have to offer — who you are, how attractive you are, and how much people have enjoyed being with you in the past,” says Dr. Howard. “Remember how your friends love you and how lovable, smart, fun, and adventurous you really are.”
