We talked to Perpetua Neo, a doctor of clinical psychology, master of philosophy, and chartered psychologist from Brighton, UK, to get our anger management 101. Here’s what she had to say: “You have an anger problem if you find yourself raging often at the slightest trigger, wanting to hurt someone or vent your feelings at objects, or are often preoccupied by (the many) things that seem unfair,” Neo explains. “You feel as though you can go from feeling extremely calm to raging very quickly, and this is often provoked by things that wouldn’t make others react as strongly.”
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Neo also says it’s a bad sign if someone else has ever pointed any of this out to you, or if you’ve ever hurt or scared others with your anger. If someone you love has sat you down and explained his or her fear of your temper, you should take that person seriously.
The good news is that an anger problem isn’t insurmountable. Neo offers these tips for managing anger:
For those in need of immediate assistance, call 911. Also available 24 hours a day, The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and the National Child Abuse Hotline can be reached at 1-800-4-A-Child (422-4453).
Neo says that sometimes, that mask is covering plain fear, but sometimes it’s serious anxiety or depression. Exploring what your anger is rooted in is really the best way to deal with it in the long term.
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“They’re afraid of looking vulnerable, so they bypass the fear stage and jump immediately into anger,” Neo says. “During such times, pay attention to the parts of your body that are reverberating with anger. Acknowledge your fear, then keep breathing softly into it with the kindness that you would show a child or a pet.”
“We say things we don’t always mean when we’re upset, and the young minds of children can misconstrue what’s being said and form wrong beliefs about themselves and how they should behave,” she says. If stepping out of the room for two minutes can save your kids negative memories that’ll stick with them long term, it’s worth it.
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“If you have become emotionally or physically abusive to someone else and would like to stop, the first thing to do is to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty about it,” Neo says. “It’s easier said than done, so a therapist or coach can help you with those feelings.”
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title: “8 Ways To Manage Anger And Know When Yours Is A Problem” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-24” author: “Krissy Milano”
We talked to Perpetua Neo, a doctor of clinical psychology, master of philosophy, and chartered psychologist from Brighton, UK, to get our anger management 101. Here’s what she had to say: “You have an anger problem if you find yourself raging often at the slightest trigger, wanting to hurt someone or vent your feelings at objects, or are often preoccupied by (the many) things that seem unfair,” Neo explains. “You feel as though you can go from feeling extremely calm to raging very quickly, and this is often provoked by things that wouldn’t make others react as strongly.”
More from The Stir: ‘Rage Yoga’ Can Help Turn Anger into Inner Peace
Neo also says it’s a bad sign if someone else has ever pointed any of this out to you, or if you’ve ever hurt or scared others with your anger. If someone you love has sat you down and explained his or her fear of your temper, you should take that person seriously.
The good news is that an anger problem isn’t insurmountable. Neo offers these tips for managing anger:
For those in need of immediate assistance, call 911. Also available 24 hours a day, The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and the National Child Abuse Hotline can be reached at 1-800-4-A-Child (422-4453).
Neo says that sometimes, that mask is covering plain fear, but sometimes it’s serious anxiety or depression. Exploring what your anger is rooted in is really the best way to deal with it in the long term.
More from The Stir: Life With Anxiety & Depression Captured Perfectly in Sweet, Funny Illustrations
“They’re afraid of looking vulnerable, so they bypass the fear stage and jump immediately into anger,” Neo says. “During such times, pay attention to the parts of your body that are reverberating with anger. Acknowledge your fear, then keep breathing softly into it with the kindness that you would show a child or a pet.”
“We say things we don’t always mean when we’re upset, and the young minds of children can misconstrue what’s being said and form wrong beliefs about themselves and how they should behave,” she says. If stepping out of the room for two minutes can save your kids negative memories that’ll stick with them long term, it’s worth it.
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“If you have become emotionally or physically abusive to someone else and would like to stop, the first thing to do is to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty about it,” Neo says. “It’s easier said than done, so a therapist or coach can help you with those feelings.”
Image via iko/Shutterstock
title: “8 Ways To Manage Anger And Know When Yours Is A Problem” ShowToc: true date: “2024-09-22” author: “Gilbert Stebner”
We talked to Perpetua Neo, a doctor of clinical psychology, master of philosophy, and chartered psychologist from Brighton, UK, to get our anger management 101. Here’s what she had to say: “You have an anger problem if you find yourself raging often at the slightest trigger, wanting to hurt someone or vent your feelings at objects, or are often preoccupied by (the many) things that seem unfair,” Neo explains. “You feel as though you can go from feeling extremely calm to raging very quickly, and this is often provoked by things that wouldn’t make others react as strongly.”
More from The Stir: ‘Rage Yoga’ Can Help Turn Anger into Inner Peace
Neo also says it’s a bad sign if someone else has ever pointed any of this out to you, or if you’ve ever hurt or scared others with your anger. If someone you love has sat you down and explained his or her fear of your temper, you should take that person seriously.
The good news is that an anger problem isn’t insurmountable. Neo offers these tips for managing anger:
For those in need of immediate assistance, call 911. Also available 24 hours a day, The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and the National Child Abuse Hotline can be reached at 1-800-4-A-Child (422-4453).
Neo says that sometimes, that mask is covering plain fear, but sometimes it’s serious anxiety or depression. Exploring what your anger is rooted in is really the best way to deal with it in the long term.
More from The Stir: Life With Anxiety & Depression Captured Perfectly in Sweet, Funny Illustrations
“They’re afraid of looking vulnerable, so they bypass the fear stage and jump immediately into anger,” Neo says. “During such times, pay attention to the parts of your body that are reverberating with anger. Acknowledge your fear, then keep breathing softly into it with the kindness that you would show a child or a pet.”
“We say things we don’t always mean when we’re upset, and the young minds of children can misconstrue what’s being said and form wrong beliefs about themselves and how they should behave,” she says. If stepping out of the room for two minutes can save your kids negative memories that’ll stick with them long term, it’s worth it.
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“If you have become emotionally or physically abusive to someone else and would like to stop, the first thing to do is to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty about it,” Neo says. “It’s easier said than done, so a therapist or coach can help you with those feelings.”
Image via iko/Shutterstock
title: “8 Ways To Manage Anger And Know When Yours Is A Problem” ShowToc: true date: “2024-09-13” author: “Mildred Graven”
We talked to Perpetua Neo, a doctor of clinical psychology, master of philosophy, and chartered psychologist from Brighton, UK, to get our anger management 101. Here’s what she had to say: “You have an anger problem if you find yourself raging often at the slightest trigger, wanting to hurt someone or vent your feelings at objects, or are often preoccupied by (the many) things that seem unfair,” Neo explains. “You feel as though you can go from feeling extremely calm to raging very quickly, and this is often provoked by things that wouldn’t make others react as strongly.”
More from The Stir: ‘Rage Yoga’ Can Help Turn Anger into Inner Peace
Neo also says it’s a bad sign if someone else has ever pointed any of this out to you, or if you’ve ever hurt or scared others with your anger. If someone you love has sat you down and explained his or her fear of your temper, you should take that person seriously.
The good news is that an anger problem isn’t insurmountable. Neo offers these tips for managing anger:
For those in need of immediate assistance, call 911. Also available 24 hours a day, The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and the National Child Abuse Hotline can be reached at 1-800-4-A-Child (422-4453).
Neo says that sometimes, that mask is covering plain fear, but sometimes it’s serious anxiety or depression. Exploring what your anger is rooted in is really the best way to deal with it in the long term.
More from The Stir: Life With Anxiety & Depression Captured Perfectly in Sweet, Funny Illustrations
“They’re afraid of looking vulnerable, so they bypass the fear stage and jump immediately into anger,” Neo says. “During such times, pay attention to the parts of your body that are reverberating with anger. Acknowledge your fear, then keep breathing softly into it with the kindness that you would show a child or a pet.”
“We say things we don’t always mean when we’re upset, and the young minds of children can misconstrue what’s being said and form wrong beliefs about themselves and how they should behave,” she says. If stepping out of the room for two minutes can save your kids negative memories that’ll stick with them long term, it’s worth it.
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“If you have become emotionally or physically abusive to someone else and would like to stop, the first thing to do is to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty about it,” Neo says. “It’s easier said than done, so a therapist or coach can help you with those feelings.”
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