Plus, women of size, like Gabourey Sidibe, are derided when they dare to perform in sex scenes. For instance, social media users shredded Sidibe when her character, Becky, shot a “controversial” sex scene for “Empire.” “I can’t get a text back. Meanwhile, Becky [is] getting it all,” one woman tweeted. Variations of this tweet, including one that ended up on The Shade Room, went viral. Of course, this implies that Sidibe is less deserving of love than a smaller woman. The criticism feeds into the stereotype that fat women are undesirable, undersexed, and unworthy of pleasure. This misconception bleeds into the ways that fat women see themselves. To combat these tropes about fat women and sex, here are five things I’ve learned from “doing it” that have revealed to me the power of my body: Recognizing what my plus-size body is capable of makes me confident in the bedroom and outside of it. Most fat girls can relate to this scenario. Instead of enjoying the moment, many fat women are worried about how they’ll look rather than what they’re doing. Giving up those insecurities emboldened me in so many ways. I now walk around my house naked. It’s freeing to stop overthinking someone else’s gaze and recognize that my own is the most important. I fought to defy this stigma for a long time. I refused to do many things sexually. Not only did this inhibit me from receiving pleasure, but it also made sex more awkward than it had to be. Now, there’s nothing wrong with having boundaries — every person having sex should have them. However, those boundaries shouldn’t be rooted in social stigma about fat bodies. Undoing that thinking will also unleash your inner freak. Trust me. That passive approach to sex robbed me of pleasure. Being more vocal got me everything I wanted — and then some. It also gave me confidence outside of the bedroom. That sense of power went with me from the bedroom to the office. It’s an assertiveness that can’t be understated. Take control.
title: “5 Liberating Things I Learned About Having Sex As A Fat Woman” ShowToc: true date: “2024-09-15” author: “Sarah Kemp”
Plus, women of size, like Gabourey Sidibe, are derided when they dare to perform in sex scenes. For instance, social media users shredded Sidibe when her character, Becky, shot a “controversial” sex scene for “Empire.” “I can’t get a text back. Meanwhile, Becky [is] getting it all,” one woman tweeted. Variations of this tweet, including one that ended up on The Shade Room, went viral. Of course, this implies that Sidibe is less deserving of love than a smaller woman. The criticism feeds into the stereotype that fat women are undesirable, undersexed, and unworthy of pleasure. This misconception bleeds into the ways that fat women see themselves. To combat these tropes about fat women and sex, here are five things I’ve learned from “doing it” that have revealed to me the power of my body: Recognizing what my plus-size body is capable of makes me confident in the bedroom and outside of it. Most fat girls can relate to this scenario. Instead of enjoying the moment, many fat women are worried about how they’ll look rather than what they’re doing. Giving up those insecurities emboldened me in so many ways. I now walk around my house naked. It’s freeing to stop overthinking someone else’s gaze and recognize that my own is the most important. I fought to defy this stigma for a long time. I refused to do many things sexually. Not only did this inhibit me from receiving pleasure, but it also made sex more awkward than it had to be. Now, there’s nothing wrong with having boundaries — every person having sex should have them. However, those boundaries shouldn’t be rooted in social stigma about fat bodies. Undoing that thinking will also unleash your inner freak. Trust me. That passive approach to sex robbed me of pleasure. Being more vocal got me everything I wanted — and then some. It also gave me confidence outside of the bedroom. That sense of power went with me from the bedroom to the office. It’s an assertiveness that can’t be understated. Take control.
title: “5 Liberating Things I Learned About Having Sex As A Fat Woman” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-15” author: “Christine Hoover”
Plus, women of size, like Gabourey Sidibe, are derided when they dare to perform in sex scenes. For instance, social media users shredded Sidibe when her character, Becky, shot a “controversial” sex scene for “Empire.” “I can’t get a text back. Meanwhile, Becky [is] getting it all,” one woman tweeted. Variations of this tweet, including one that ended up on The Shade Room, went viral. Of course, this implies that Sidibe is less deserving of love than a smaller woman. The criticism feeds into the stereotype that fat women are undesirable, undersexed, and unworthy of pleasure. This misconception bleeds into the ways that fat women see themselves. To combat these tropes about fat women and sex, here are five things I’ve learned from “doing it” that have revealed to me the power of my body: Recognizing what my plus-size body is capable of makes me confident in the bedroom and outside of it. Most fat girls can relate to this scenario. Instead of enjoying the moment, many fat women are worried about how they’ll look rather than what they’re doing. Giving up those insecurities emboldened me in so many ways. I now walk around my house naked. It’s freeing to stop overthinking someone else’s gaze and recognize that my own is the most important. I fought to defy this stigma for a long time. I refused to do many things sexually. Not only did this inhibit me from receiving pleasure, but it also made sex more awkward than it had to be. Now, there’s nothing wrong with having boundaries — every person having sex should have them. However, those boundaries shouldn’t be rooted in social stigma about fat bodies. Undoing that thinking will also unleash your inner freak. Trust me. That passive approach to sex robbed me of pleasure. Being more vocal got me everything I wanted — and then some. It also gave me confidence outside of the bedroom. That sense of power went with me from the bedroom to the office. It’s an assertiveness that can’t be understated. Take control.
