We survived the single and broke years, the newlywed years, and the new mom years. She’s known every adult version of me, and there are just some times where it is easier to confide in her.
Best friends are sacred safe spaces. They are supposed to be our unwavering ally who gives it to us straight with no bias, and sometimes, it’s a little easier to trust someone who can’t file for divorce.
I’m always curious about other people’s secrets and who they confide in the most, so I asked around about what things women aren’t telling their husbands. It turns out that there is a fairly high number of women whose BFFs are holding on to some pretty major secrets that partners don’t have a clue about. The women featured here asked to stay anonymous, and after reading some of these secrets, I think it is easy understand why.
For some juicy secrets and some surprising glimpses into other people’s relationships, read on!
“She also hooks me up with some pot when we go camping, but my husband knows about that part.”
“She helped remind me of his other good qualities.”
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“Now we are 39 and the account has over $40,000 in it. Neither of our husbands know about it. The money is our secret security blanket.”
“He doesn’t know that I used to be fat and my best friend is sworn to secrecy about it. She is really the only person in my life who knew me when I was fat and when I lost all the weight. She also knows that I sometimes struggle with bulimia and is always there for me when I relapse.
“It feels crazy, a little, but I know that he can be judgy about people who are heavy and I don’t want him to think of me that way.”
“He doesn’t know that I used to be a cutter too. But my best friend does and she helps me feel safe when I’m feeling like I’m spiraling again. I think he’d want to know if I was thinking about hurting myself, but I don’t trust him with this.”
