I don’t have any stats to back this up, but I strongly suspect that for most of us, the first time we had sex and the first time we reached orgasm were NOT the same. Yes, I may be speaking from personal experience here. Whether it happened all alone or with a partner who knew just what to do, I coaxed 11 women to tell me what they remember about the first “O” and how it changed how they thought about sex and themselves. Once I promised them they could stay anonymous, they opened up with some sweet, surprising, and even a little sexy memories. Read on — you might even find yourself a bit inspired! Background: I’m not a Duggar, but I’m basically from that same kind of family. I’m one of eight kids, I grew up in the south as Southern Baptist, and my husband and I met in Sunday School. We got married at 19 and 20 and didn’t do anything but kiss until we were married. When it came to the wedding night, I was so nervous. I was so worried about it hurting that I really didn’t even think about the whole orgasm thing. That wasn’t even like on my radar. But my husband was determined that he wouldn’t have one until I did — ’ladies first,’ he said. He had apparently read a book about Christian marriage and totally committed to trying oral sex. It was surprising and great. I felt like it was God’s reward for us being willing to wait." I gave it a try until my dad said our water bill was too high, so I had to cut my shower time down." Our chemistry was amazing, but he was unkind in lots of other ways. I cringe now that I stayed so long with someone who was mean to me a lot, but I do credit him for helping me figure out what I like in bed. I’m more sexually confident now." More from CafeMom: 8 Glorious Sexual Fetishes to Try if You’re a ‘Virgin’ (PHOTOS) I never came in my first marriage. I just couldn’t let myself go, and I felt conflicted about it. I was widowed at 26, and when I remarried at 41, my now husband was so patient and helpful about helping me get past the damage done by my upbringing. I had my first orgasm at 42. Better late than never! Now I can own the fact that I like having sex, and I don’t think there should be shame about that." That was the first time I had an orgasm and the first time it occurred to me that I might be gay. Thanks, Cindy Crawford!" More from CafeMom: 7 Things You Didn’t Know About Women’s Orgasms My low sex drive has been an issue in relationships before, and I never had an orgasm, either from sex or from masturbating. I just couldn’t get there. I kind of gave up — until I met my new boyfriend. Not only is the rest of our relationship great, he is so determined when it comes to my pleasure. He will do oral FOREVER, which is apparently what it takes. I finally had an ‘O’ last year and it was great!"
title: “11 Women Share Their First Orgasm Stories” ShowToc: true date: “2024-09-06” author: “Garrett Smart”
I don’t have any stats to back this up, but I strongly suspect that for most of us, the first time we had sex and the first time we reached orgasm were NOT the same. Yes, I may be speaking from personal experience here. Whether it happened all alone or with a partner who knew just what to do, I coaxed 11 women to tell me what they remember about the first “O” and how it changed how they thought about sex and themselves. Once I promised them they could stay anonymous, they opened up with some sweet, surprising, and even a little sexy memories. Read on — you might even find yourself a bit inspired! Background: I’m not a Duggar, but I’m basically from that same kind of family. I’m one of eight kids, I grew up in the south as Southern Baptist, and my husband and I met in Sunday School. We got married at 19 and 20 and didn’t do anything but kiss until we were married. When it came to the wedding night, I was so nervous. I was so worried about it hurting that I really didn’t even think about the whole orgasm thing. That wasn’t even like on my radar. But my husband was determined that he wouldn’t have one until I did — ’ladies first,’ he said. He had apparently read a book about Christian marriage and totally committed to trying oral sex. It was surprising and great. I felt like it was God’s reward for us being willing to wait." I gave it a try until my dad said our water bill was too high, so I had to cut my shower time down." Our chemistry was amazing, but he was unkind in lots of other ways. I cringe now that I stayed so long with someone who was mean to me a lot, but I do credit him for helping me figure out what I like in bed. I’m more sexually confident now." More from CafeMom: 8 Glorious Sexual Fetishes to Try if You’re a ‘Virgin’ (PHOTOS) I never came in my first marriage. I just couldn’t let myself go, and I felt conflicted about it. I was widowed at 26, and when I remarried at 41, my now husband was so patient and helpful about helping me get past the damage done by my upbringing. I had my first orgasm at 42. Better late than never! Now I can own the fact that I like having sex, and I don’t think there should be shame about that." That was the first time I had an orgasm and the first time it occurred to me that I might be gay. Thanks, Cindy Crawford!" More from CafeMom: 7 Things You Didn’t Know About Women’s Orgasms My low sex drive has been an issue in relationships before, and I never had an orgasm, either from sex or from masturbating. I just couldn’t get there. I kind of gave up — until I met my new boyfriend. Not only is the rest of our relationship great, he is so determined when it comes to my pleasure. He will do oral FOREVER, which is apparently what it takes. I finally had an ‘O’ last year and it was great!"
title: “11 Women Share Their First Orgasm Stories” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-04” author: “Maria Sell”
I don’t have any stats to back this up, but I strongly suspect that for most of us, the first time we had sex and the first time we reached orgasm were NOT the same. Yes, I may be speaking from personal experience here. Whether it happened all alone or with a partner who knew just what to do, I coaxed 11 women to tell me what they remember about the first “O” and how it changed how they thought about sex and themselves. Once I promised them they could stay anonymous, they opened up with some sweet, surprising, and even a little sexy memories. Read on — you might even find yourself a bit inspired! Background: I’m not a Duggar, but I’m basically from that same kind of family. I’m one of eight kids, I grew up in the south as Southern Baptist, and my husband and I met in Sunday School. We got married at 19 and 20 and didn’t do anything but kiss until we were married. When it came to the wedding night, I was so nervous. I was so worried about it hurting that I really didn’t even think about the whole orgasm thing. That wasn’t even like on my radar. But my husband was determined that he wouldn’t have one until I did — ’ladies first,’ he said. He had apparently read a book about Christian marriage and totally committed to trying oral sex. It was surprising and great. I felt like it was God’s reward for us being willing to wait." I gave it a try until my dad said our water bill was too high, so I had to cut my shower time down." Our chemistry was amazing, but he was unkind in lots of other ways. I cringe now that I stayed so long with someone who was mean to me a lot, but I do credit him for helping me figure out what I like in bed. I’m more sexually confident now." More from CafeMom: 8 Glorious Sexual Fetishes to Try if You’re a ‘Virgin’ (PHOTOS) I never came in my first marriage. I just couldn’t let myself go, and I felt conflicted about it. I was widowed at 26, and when I remarried at 41, my now husband was so patient and helpful about helping me get past the damage done by my upbringing. I had my first orgasm at 42. Better late than never! Now I can own the fact that I like having sex, and I don’t think there should be shame about that." That was the first time I had an orgasm and the first time it occurred to me that I might be gay. Thanks, Cindy Crawford!" More from CafeMom: 7 Things You Didn’t Know About Women’s Orgasms My low sex drive has been an issue in relationships before, and I never had an orgasm, either from sex or from masturbating. I just couldn’t get there. I kind of gave up — until I met my new boyfriend. Not only is the rest of our relationship great, he is so determined when it comes to my pleasure. He will do oral FOREVER, which is apparently what it takes. I finally had an ‘O’ last year and it was great!"
