OKCupid’s co-founder, Christian Rudder, found that Black women are the least likely to get a response from all races of men, but are the most likely to write a message. During my years writing about dating, I’ve spoken to hundreds of women of color about their experience with dating apps and they all seem to have similar sentiments. To put it plainly, as one woman did, “It seems like the men aren’t really checking for us on those apps.” This may be why, despite the glitches and the occasional fuck boy, Black dating apps have become my oasis. After a lukewarm experience swiping 30 men lacking melanin before I got to one of color, getting fetishized messages about my skin complexion, and men who didn’t respond after matching, I decided to try something new. All dating ventures have their flaws and their advantages, but here are 10 things I’ve learned from Black dating apps. The men that sign up for an app for people of color are clearly there for women with melanin. I was immersed in matches, upon trying it out, and found myself on dates with guys who knew exactly what they wanted before they signed up. One night I’d be conversing with Marcus who worked in “sales” and wanted to kick it. (He didn’t work in sales, y’all). In the next few days I’d be chatting with Malachi, a pharmaceutical sales rep and Emory University graduate. The folks that popped up for me to swipe got a little better each time, as I unmatched the men I wasn’t interested in and continued to converse with gentlemen who intrigued me. The app seemed perfect. At the time I was using Meld, I was working in a corporate setting and never had enough time to go out and meet new folks. First swipe. Someone in my circle. Nope. Second swipe. Someone that worked at my job. Hell no. Third swipe. Oh, hello there. I’d gotten lucky on the third try. I met Robert at a nice bar uptown where we planned to sip on cocktails and get to know each another. He was in law school, interning at a firm, and the creases in his suit were almost as sharp as his jawline. Whew. I was enamored. His voice was sultry and every woman in the room noticed him. We talked for an hour and he was interesting, until I noticed that he was knocking his alcohol back a little too quickly. After three whiskey-heavy drinks, Robert threw up on the restaurant floor and excused himself. By the time he returned, I was gone. He couldn’t hold me, if he couldn’t hold his liquor. sings Erykah Badu’s “Next Lifetime” You’ve spent enough time being ignored on other apps… go out, have fun.
title: “10 Beautiful Things I Ve Learned From Black Dating Apps Like Bae” ShowToc: true date: “2024-10-08” author: “Richard Lennon”
OKCupid’s co-founder, Christian Rudder, found that Black women are the least likely to get a response from all races of men, but are the most likely to write a message. During my years writing about dating, I’ve spoken to hundreds of women of color about their experience with dating apps and they all seem to have similar sentiments. To put it plainly, as one woman did, “It seems like the men aren’t really checking for us on those apps.” This may be why, despite the glitches and the occasional fuck boy, Black dating apps have become my oasis. After a lukewarm experience swiping 30 men lacking melanin before I got to one of color, getting fetishized messages about my skin complexion, and men who didn’t respond after matching, I decided to try something new. All dating ventures have their flaws and their advantages, but here are 10 things I’ve learned from Black dating apps. The men that sign up for an app for people of color are clearly there for women with melanin. I was immersed in matches, upon trying it out, and found myself on dates with guys who knew exactly what they wanted before they signed up. One night I’d be conversing with Marcus who worked in “sales” and wanted to kick it. (He didn’t work in sales, y’all). In the next few days I’d be chatting with Malachi, a pharmaceutical sales rep and Emory University graduate. The folks that popped up for me to swipe got a little better each time, as I unmatched the men I wasn’t interested in and continued to converse with gentlemen who intrigued me. The app seemed perfect. At the time I was using Meld, I was working in a corporate setting and never had enough time to go out and meet new folks. First swipe. Someone in my circle. Nope. Second swipe. Someone that worked at my job. Hell no. Third swipe. Oh, hello there. I’d gotten lucky on the third try. I met Robert at a nice bar uptown where we planned to sip on cocktails and get to know each another. He was in law school, interning at a firm, and the creases in his suit were almost as sharp as his jawline. Whew. I was enamored. His voice was sultry and every woman in the room noticed him. We talked for an hour and he was interesting, until I noticed that he was knocking his alcohol back a little too quickly. After three whiskey-heavy drinks, Robert threw up on the restaurant floor and excused himself. By the time he returned, I was gone. He couldn’t hold me, if he couldn’t hold his liquor. sings Erykah Badu’s “Next Lifetime” You’ve spent enough time being ignored on other apps… go out, have fun.
title: “10 Beautiful Things I Ve Learned From Black Dating Apps Like Bae” ShowToc: true date: “2024-08-28” author: “Curtis Collins”
OKCupid’s co-founder, Christian Rudder, found that Black women are the least likely to get a response from all races of men, but are the most likely to write a message. During my years writing about dating, I’ve spoken to hundreds of women of color about their experience with dating apps and they all seem to have similar sentiments. To put it plainly, as one woman did, “It seems like the men aren’t really checking for us on those apps.” This may be why, despite the glitches and the occasional fuck boy, Black dating apps have become my oasis. After a lukewarm experience swiping 30 men lacking melanin before I got to one of color, getting fetishized messages about my skin complexion, and men who didn’t respond after matching, I decided to try something new. All dating ventures have their flaws and their advantages, but here are 10 things I’ve learned from Black dating apps. The men that sign up for an app for people of color are clearly there for women with melanin. I was immersed in matches, upon trying it out, and found myself on dates with guys who knew exactly what they wanted before they signed up. One night I’d be conversing with Marcus who worked in “sales” and wanted to kick it. (He didn’t work in sales, y’all). In the next few days I’d be chatting with Malachi, a pharmaceutical sales rep and Emory University graduate. The folks that popped up for me to swipe got a little better each time, as I unmatched the men I wasn’t interested in and continued to converse with gentlemen who intrigued me. The app seemed perfect. At the time I was using Meld, I was working in a corporate setting and never had enough time to go out and meet new folks. First swipe. Someone in my circle. Nope. Second swipe. Someone that worked at my job. Hell no. Third swipe. Oh, hello there. I’d gotten lucky on the third try. I met Robert at a nice bar uptown where we planned to sip on cocktails and get to know each another. He was in law school, interning at a firm, and the creases in his suit were almost as sharp as his jawline. Whew. I was enamored. His voice was sultry and every woman in the room noticed him. We talked for an hour and he was interesting, until I noticed that he was knocking his alcohol back a little too quickly. After three whiskey-heavy drinks, Robert threw up on the restaurant floor and excused himself. By the time he returned, I was gone. He couldn’t hold me, if he couldn’t hold his liquor. sings Erykah Badu’s “Next Lifetime” You’ve spent enough time being ignored on other apps… go out, have fun.
